dancing in the rain

today i dont really feel like saying much so i let you do the viewing and enjoying,i am a lover of life,art,i love ..love
it rained yesterday and washed all the dust away.
here wishing everyone a lovely weekend and hoping that you l get anice rain to wash away all the gloom and heart ache.
i am going home today hoping to be posting pictures of the new additionto the family by monday

stay home and wash your hair

on my  way to work this morning,i met my neighbour outside,she was sitting on a couch in her balcony and we exchanged pleasantries as we always do,she is a work from home business woman and has no fixed office hours,she looked at me and said"ninnie its a relief that i dont have to go anywhere early today"
i smiled and shook my head...."lucky you," i replied
"yea,i ll just stay home and wash my hair,put on a dvd and relax"
       As i drove off to work i realised that in all the years,that i had been working i had never taken out time,infact it hadnt ever crossed my mind to take time out to do something as mundane as stay home and wash my hair,and i kinnda realise that i am somehow missing out on the simple pleasures of life....not really the washing my hair part cos i dont think i l do anyone a favour except of course my scalp,but just relaxing,letting my hair down and just relaxing
well...that has definately got to change ,i am not so far away from 35 anymore and i dont wanna look back and see the best years of my  life wasted and for nothing...
i have an adventurous spiritand il be damned if i let my life pass me by without so much as an "ahhh'moment
here is my tip of the week,since we are talking hair

Do You Know The Different Black Hair Types?

Find out which one of the black hair types you have.
There are three main types of black hair; wavy, curly and kinky. I’m a coily type 4a. What are you?
Don’t waste your time and money on hair products and tools that won’t work for you. Take a minute to figure out which one of the unique black hair types you have and let that guide you to the products, tools and techniques that work best for your hair.
Look at the characteristics of each hair type to figure out which one you have.
Remember, this is for your hair in its natural state, so if you’re relaxed look at your new growth to decide.

Type 1 hair is naturally bone straight hair that’s not typical of black and mixed black hair.

Type 2 - Wavy Hair

Characteristics
Also known as type 2 hair, wavy hair commonly has these features.

• Soft or deep waves and little to no curl.
• Coarse and stays close to the scalp in long "s" shaped curves.
• Doesn't usually have a lot of body.

Care Tips for Wavy Hair

• Invest in a good boar bristle brush to keep your waves smooth.
• Use a light moisturizing hair gel to add definition to your waves.
• Deep condition regularly and use a moisturizing leave-in.

Type 3 - Curly Hair

Characteristics
Also known as type 3 hair, curly hair has a unique texture.

• Fine and soft "q" shaped pattern.
• Doesn't have a lot of sheen.
• Has lots of body.
• Straightens when wet and curls as it dries.

Care Tips for Curly Hair

• Only use wide tooth combs. The wider the better.
• Use deep conditioner every time you shampoo.
• Use leave-In conditioner daily.
• To reduce frizz don’t brush your hair.
• Don’t use towels to dry your hair. Air dry or blow dry on medium with a diffuser attachment instead.

Type 4 - Coily / Kinky Hair

Characteristics
Also known as type 4 hair, it’s the most highly textured of all the black hair types.

• Very tightly curled and wiry.
• Driest of all the types.
• 4a hair has a looser 'coil'. Strands have a spiral shape.
• 4b hair has a tighter 'kink'. Strands have a zig-zag shape like the letter "z".
• Most fragile of the types.

Care Tips for Coily / Kinky Hair

• Comb and detangle your hair when it's wet and coated with conditioner.
• Always use a wide tooth comb, your fingers or a hair pick to detangle.
• Deep condition your hair with protein and moisture to keep your it healthy and strong.
• Use a daily moisturizing leave-in.

Knowing which of the black hair types you have is the first step to creating a good regimen. .

Women's Rights, a OneWorld briefing

Women's Rights, a OneWorld briefing

hazy weather today

the weather in nigeria is going bonkers,we are actually supposed to be slipping into the raining season,but fortunately or unfortunately we are experiencing one of those weird changes of nature.
this is going to make travelling horrible because flights and cars are going to have a difficult time getting people whare the should be on time...........
oh!well,heres to all the travellers today and throughout this weird haze, to  pls listen to the weather people and be safe.
heard CNN and BBC warned of acid rain in nigeria...
there goes the outdoor plans of a million or so nigerians 
       but the truth is the rumours(and they are )are just that,so it is safe to say that while you still need an umbrella when it rains,one rainy day between the 21st and 28th isnt the skin cancer killer we should all be avoiding. 

Sahara dust storm linked to hazy weather

Sahara dust storm linked to hazy weather

true wife confessions:the new internet sensations

well,well,well.............i have come across so many blogs about women who are the perfect wives,mothers and business people and i wonder,truely that do these women ever fall short of this perfect life at some point or the other in their lives????/
its kind of scary to think that i could not love my husband anymore,or that i can resent his behaviour sometimes and i shudder to think after wanting marriage for so long and wanting kids for even longer that i can feel resentment for BEING a wife and a mother,till i read this article and then i thought well there are some people that are feeling like i do sometimes...dosent make it right though,just makes me feel a little more human and less like the devil

True wife confessions: How women's real-life stories became the new internet sensation

Shelly writes poignantly about the state of her marriage. Karen blogs shamelessly about her secret life as a serial mistress. Amy reveals all about her adulterous affairs ...Suddenly there are any number of websites devoted to women's real-life confessions. But who uses them, and why?

By Heidi Scrimgeour

Saturday, 25 July 2009

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A growing number of 'infidelity blogs' are attracting a loyal online following

"thank you mummy"

even though my angel can be a real firebrand at times(she is very opinionated)even at two,it always breaks my heart when i hear her say the words"thank you",she always sounds so cute.............and i just want to do things for her just to hear her say thank you.i am so in love with this cutie.
just the other day i came across an article that kinna teaches us to teach our kids to say thank you
hope it helps..................

Top 5 Ways to Teach Children to Say Thank You   by Ray Nadeau

in Family / Parenting    (submitted 2010-03-15)

Thank children for thanking other people. You can keep small treats, such as a candy or small toy to be given in private when you notice that your child has done a good job of thanking others.
Have children count in their head how many times they were able to thank people for different things and report back in the car after an event. It will help in their manners and help their memory and counting skills as well.
Sometimes adults can get so busy in other things that they forget to listen for a thank you. Discipline yourself to expect a thank you from your children. Don't be in such a rush that you forget the importance of manners in the home.
When they are still very young, make sure that children sign and send all their own thank you cards for birthday, Christmas or other gifts. This will create a great habit for later in life.
Show children thank you notes or gifts you are sending out, or bring children along when you are delivering a thank you. Modeling how you thank your friends and family will help them to thank their friends as well. FOR MORE INFO http://raymondrules.com

push,annie push!

so i am about 10 ten days to my E.D.D and even though i was kinna hoping that i would have dropped the little angel by now.i am becoming really impatient,and the worse thing is that i am still working,and i l have to work till the very day i go into labour,cos i dont have the luxury of 3months maternity leave,since i am not a full staff of the company,those are their rules and this is still a developing country
so i find myself shiuffling round the office,hoping to set something into motion....................any tips

when do i let it go

last night i was really in need of a cuddle and just being held,but bill and i(my husband),had a fight a while back and he still hadnt said he was sorry and so i wasnt really speaking to him,like i normally would,much more cuddle or be romantic with him...........and well since he didnt seem to mind,i was going to pretend like i didnt mind as well.so there we were watching the news together after dinner, with naomi running and playing like she always does when we are both home together(she was esctatic) and talking in monosyllables.
when all i wanted to do was go lie beside him on the couch and have him hold me tight,i just sat stiffly i might add,on the other side of the room munching mangoes and complaing how i wished i could just go into labour and get it over with
and today it really makes me wonder,cos i had a horrible day at work and needed some consoling,why didnt i just forgive him(even though he didnt deserve it just yet) and let myself get a warm embrace at least i know i would have slept better...........................................................

so i am wondering when is the right time to let it go........................

being realistic rocks

i got a guest post from a new found blogger friend and i am posting it right now,its gonna make you laugh and kinna do a "phew"at the same time.cos we all want to be the strong wife,mother,enterpreneur ,yea but sometimes we just wanna.............be invinsible for a while

Not Tonight Dear... By Sandie Lee  I’m getting really tired of all these magazines giving advice on how to "turn on your man." These articles are suppose to be aimed at us middle-agers. But lets face it, it’s really the twenty-something year olds that are reading them. Here’s a tip - if you’re twenty-something, you don’t need an article...YOU’RE IN YOUR TWENTIES! For the rest of us nudging into middle age with all the responsibilities of career, family and a household to maintain, these articles are a joke. After a long day the last thing most of us want to do is read another ‘how to please your man’ article, much less carry out the suggestions. So for all you tired, normal women out there, I’ve composed a short list of ways to ‘turn off’ your significant other and not come out looking like a prude. First - The Meal: They would have us believe that a fancy dinner, with tiny portions and a sprig of garnish is the first step to a romantic evening. WRONG. Men want steak. A big, thick, bloody slab of beef and lots of it. AVOID STEAK! The best turn off meal is obviously anything with fresh turkey involved. Once that tryptophan kicks in they’re snoozing on the couch. But turkey’s a lot of work. So I suggest meat loaf. It’s super easy for you and there’s absolutely nothing romantic about a large, rectangular blob of ground meat, dripping with ketchup. If your man happens to like meat loaf, there’s always the heavy artillery - Spicy food; tacos, burritos, any Mexican food really. Once the heart burn kicks in, most middle age men are down for the count. But use with caution. This meal could end up ‘backfiring’ on you...literally. Second - Hair: If you normally shower after work, DON’T. But if you must, be sure to wash off All your make-up and give yourself the towel-do. You know the one...your hair is all scraggly and wild after you take the towel off. As hard as it may seem, leave it. Scare-hair is good. NEVER make a pony tail or pig tails for a not tonight. These scream cheerleader or farm girl and too many mental images will be conjured up. If you have long hair, try pulling it straight back tight against your head in a bun or with a huge clip. Something about this look reminds men of their moms or a crabby teacher they once had. If none of these appeal to you, there’s always the old stand by. Curlers. One look at you with a head full of these things should do the trick. Third - Clothes: It’s VERY important to change your clothes before he gets home, (not into that ‘French Maid’ outfit these magazines all seem to think we have stashed away and are eager to wear). NO. You want to put on sloppy, unflattering, baggy clothes, preferably sweats. Also, remember to take off that under-wire, padded, push-up bra. Think, Sports Bra. It smashes and flattens, there’s not a speck of padding and nothing jiggles in it. Add an apron and your look is complete! Fourth - The Olfactory: Smell is the most powerful of the five senses so make smart use of it. NO PERFUME OF ANY KIND! This is very important. Don’t try to cover up your work day smell...embrace it, own it, be proud of it. Also, don’t be afraid to utilize those around you to their fullest. If you have a little one, make sure you get some baby food, or better yet, spit-up-food on your turn-off-attire. If you’re really desperate, (and brave), smeared diaper-doodie works really well. If you don’t have any children, a dog can also be very helpful here. Now’s the perfect time to give it a bath...but not really. For this tactic to work, DON'T use any doggy-shampoo. It will only defeat the purpose. Basically, you just want Fido soak 'n wet. Nothing says "not tonight" like the smell of a wet dog running around the house. Fifth - The Last Resort: If none of the above have dampen your male's spirit, or perhaps, for some strange reason they’ve only added fuel to the fire, then it’s time for the final, full out launch. Since it’s crucial at this stage not to have even a hint of flesh exposed, your only choice left is - Flannel. And lots of it. This fabric to a man is like green kryptonite to Superman. If you own more than one pair of these PJ’s don’t be afraid to change them around. Try putting two prints or colors together that clash or make your eyes cross when you look at them. Plus, put on a pair of fuzzy slippers. Yes, even toes can be construed as exposed flesh, so cover ‘em up. Finally, the last sure fire not tonight dear tactic - the mud mask. This isn’t only great for your skin, but also tends to make you look like the ‘Creature From the Black Lagoon.’ So whether you try one of these suggestions or even mix and match them, there's still no guarantee it will work. However, if this happens there’s always the old, tired standby... ..."not tonight dear. I have a headache." |

potty training issues

i had the worse time yesterday tryng to get my 2+ year old little girl to use her potty,she has become to headstrong and fiesty lately,that i dont think i  can win the battle of " so long diapers" .its just not happening for me at this time.
i happen to have a long day at work and was really extra,extra tired.after i had given her her afternoon bath and changed her into fresh clothes,she went about playing and 5 mins later...i began to percieve the dudu smell
it was horrible,i was too tired to shout,felt more like crying actually and this thus led to a 5 time change of clothes and panties
read my lips ppl five times...change
it was horrible
any tips about how to do this will be richly appreciated,i have tried begging,threatening,taking away her dolls,
but nothing seems to work
when i ask her "mama will you like to weewee or pupu"she gets really angry and shouts a big no and raises her fingers as though to warn me to leave her alone
oh!well,the hubby is usally noticeably absent from all the theatrics,,,,,,,,,,,,,hmm

for dreamers

well dreamers and fantasizers,this one is for all of us.............eh

A Muse In My Pocket: Update on the trip

A Muse In My Pocket: Update on the trip

scared stiff

this weekend wasnt the greatest i have had,we have decided that we should move to a new house,well cos the landlord says he kinnda wants his house back,which really sucks becos the local govt,only just started tarring our road,which has been a nightmare since we moved into the property four years ago.
anyway the sad news kinnda put us all on the the edge and there was a lot of snapping and short answers to questions etc
went for my ANC as usual on saturday,only to be told by the doctor that my baby has a big head and i havent been able to stop thinking about it,even though he says it is nothing to be worried about,i just keep dreaming of a big headed monster tearing through me and its driving me crazy

friday the fifth

so i have finally won the battle between me,myself and i and decided to blog about anything and everything,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,why?
i guess because it makes me feel as good as i should and i aint really feeling like that right now
i am 9 months preggy and so heavy that i tink if i dont find a way to amuse myself,i l start inducuing myself right here at work and hopefully the little angel will pop out and i can finally sleep on my tummy.
usually on fridays,lazy ol me... am always glad,ready to kick off those high heels(that has been a while)
and just chill at home,never really been the outgoing type,even though i do ove to be outdoors.
this pregnancy has been filled with what all pregnancies are filled with i guess,hormonal u-ah-ah(excuse the french)and cant wait to see him(scan says her)